Hello, 2013.

Dear You,

2013 is going to arrive in a few hours and I want to make sure you remember things before you start the new year.

First, take a deep breath and just do it. If you think you can’t do it, think again. As humans, we feel everything so deeply that when we start feeling fear, it doesn’t stop. Oh, I’m not invincible. I’ve had my fair share of being too scared of the consequences that I ended up not doing something I badly wanted to do. But what are we really scared of exactly? That we’ll fail? That people would leave us? That we’ll end up with a blonde afro and a fake tan? Well, I’ll let you in on a secret. These things don’t kill us. Chances are, you’ll live. You probably lived through some of these obstacles already. So I say it’s alright to feel scared but don’t let it stop you from taking a chance because that failure maybe the push you need to get to the road to success. Those people who left? Maybe they were never meant to stay anyways and that mistake of getting a blonde afro and a fake tan? Nicki Minaj, pop star, need I say more?

Second, cherish your family and your friends. In this lifetime, they will be the biggest support you’ll have. Sometimes, it’s fate to have them. Other times, you create the opportunity to get to know them. Nonetheless, they are like your wings. Because with them, you’ll feel like you’re flying in heaven — if heaven is a beautiful day, dancing to amazing music, laughing and genuinely being happy.

Thirdly, don’t compare yourself. You are beautiful in your own right. Everyone has something to offer and remember that weaknesses can always be combated.

Fourth, don’t be in a rush to find “the one”. They will be there when you’re ready. Learn to love yourself first. Grow as a person. Know what you want in life. Be successful. Go out, enjoy and meet new people!

And lastly, know that there is no beautiful future where all are equal and no one cries. There is a future where you win and the one where you lose. It is all a matter of how you fight for your happiness. Although, you’re scared of what 2013 would bring, remember that 2012 has made you a stronger person. Go and win. Live life the way it was supposed to be lived.. With your eyes on the stars, feet on the ground and so much love in your heart ready to share to everyone.

Love always,



You accept the love you think you deserve.

What compels a woman to settle with someone who does not even make them happy? Why do we constantly chase men who are not even that interesting? Is it really because we accept the love we think we deserve?

Early this morning, I was skyping with my friend, Tash. We were both ranting about the guys we like and how they weren’t giving us the attention we wanted. Over the past few weeks, we started developing underhanded ways like changing our profile photos, giving them gifts and even posting photos of us with other guys to try to make them jealous. All of these effort just so they notice us! We were acting crazy! It was only today that we realize how pathetic it was. Why are we running after them when they should run after us!

It was this enlightening conversation that made me believe that I deserve so much better than what I am receiving now. I know what I want now in my life. He is not that guy. It’s time I stop doing stuff that is detrimental to my self-esteem and start working on being the girl who gets what she deserves! I feel empowered at this moment. Being confident about one’s self is truly rewarding.

So for all those girls who keep on giving, stop. For all those girls who keep on chasing, stop. Anything you chase in life runs away and every time you give your all, you deal him with your best card. There wouldn’t be anything left to appreciate. Let us all stop devaluing ourselves and start loving us more than we love them. Confidence is key.

Like what those girls in the sex and city movie sang, “I am strong. I am invincible. I am woman.”

We accept the love we think we deserve. It’s time we start thinking how we deserve the BEST that life has to offer!